(Bondage and Discipline/ Dominance and Submission/ Sadomasochism) Within the leather community the terms B/D (Bondage and Discipline), D/S (Dominance and Submission) are often used interchangeably with the terms S/M (Sadomasochism.) Hence the catch-all term BDSM.


Abrasion

  • Sex play that includes rubbing, scraping or shaving the skin with various rough materials, ie., brushes, graters, loofa sponge.

Age Play

  • Partners assume roles of another age or generation, ie., babies, teenagers, grandparents.

Ash

  • Sexual arousal by cigar smokers, cigar smoke, cigar ashes.

B/D

  • Bondage and Discipline

Blood Sports

  • Sexual pleasure derived from cutting or abrading the skin or being cut or abraded to produce a flow of blood

Bottom

  • (Sexual masochist) the submissive partner receptor-anal intercourse. Boy-(Sexual masochist) the submissive bottom/ slave in a gay S/M relationship.  Also used by S/M lesbians in the same context

boy

  • Most Commonly used address by the dominant to the submissive

Branding

  • Any permanent marking of the skin caused by burning

Breath Control

  • (Hypoxyphilia) sexual arousal by oxygen deprivation by use of noose, ligature, plastic bag, oxygen mask, etc.

CBT

  • (Cock and Ball Torture) male genital play that may include pressure, pinching, flagellation, pulling and piercing that causes sexual pain in the male genitals.

Captivity

  • A sexual fantasy of being held a prisoner or inmate or slave.  Can include the use of jail cells, cages and containers.

Catheterization

  • The use of medical catheters or sounds for sexual pleasure.

Clothespins

  • Used as torture clips on the nipples, penis, balls, chest, vulva, clitoris.  Rapid application and removal produces sharpest pain.

Cutting

  • A blood sport involving the use of knives, scalpels, razor blades, etc., to cut and draw blood

Discipline

  • Obedience training of the submissive; consequence of infractions of orders established by the partners.

Dominant

  • The Top, Master or Mistress in the relationship.  The term dominant us used more frequently by heterosexuals with top being the more common term of gays.

Dominatrix (Domina)

  • A female dominant.  Use of courtesy titles, e.g., countess, mistress, lady, marquesa, goddess, princess, is a common practice of these dominant women.

Domination

  • The practice of controlling the submissive by physical, verbal or psychological means.

Edge Play

  • Any S/M activity that carries the sexual scene to dangerous, extreme and uncharted practices.

Electricity

  • Sexually arousing play that utilizes either static or ac/dc electrical current for enhancement or torture

Enema

  • (Klismaphilia) sexual arousal by the sensation of fullness and sensual pleasure of warm water going in the rectum.

Fetishism

  • The use of nonliving objects for sexual excitement and /or orgasm.  The most common fetishes are leather, rubber, latex, underwear of either sex, shoes, etc.  does not include transvestic fetishism.  In clinical terms, a foot fetish is partialism and DSM IV includes only nonliving objects as fetishes.

Flagellation

  • A variety of sexual arousing practices that utilize paddles, hands, whips, canes, floggers, rods, crops, etc., to strike, whip, spank, paddle, cane the submissive on the back, genitalia, buttocks, arms, legs etc.

Flogger

  • Short handled whip of ten or more flat, fairly wide tails.  Usually made of doe skin.

Genitorture

  • Sexual Stimulation of male and or female genitals by hitting, striking, squeezing, clamping, binding, etc.

Hankie Codes

  • The colour and rear pocket is used by gay and lesbian S/M practitioners to indicate top/dominant (Left rear pocket) or bottom/submissive (Right rear pocket)

Hot wax

  • The dripping of hot wax from a burning candle onto the submissive’s body

Humiliation

  • Sexual activity whereby the dominant shames, embarrasses, ridicules the submissive

Kink

  • All sexual practices that involve more activity than just oral, anal or vaginal play, i.e., S/M, bondage, urination, fisting, etc.

Latex

  • A sexual fetish that includes wearing latex or rubber clothing.

Leatherman

  • Any male with an interest in leather and or S/M sexual activities.

Leatherwoman

  • Any female with an interest in leather and /or S/M sexual activities.

Mistress

  • A courtesy title for a female dominant

Master

  • A courtesy title for a male dominant

Mummification

  • A form of bondage in which the submissive is wrapped in plastic wrap, bandages etc.  The result resembles and Egyptian mummy.

Negotiation

  • The discussion, prior to beginning, between the dominant (top) and the submissive (bottom) regarding what is expected, what the limits are and the establishment of a safe word to end the scene.  This stage ensures that the session with be safe, sane and consensual.

Pervertibles

  • Common articles that can be adapted for use as a sex toy, e.g., chopsticks, brushes, rope, candles, plastic wrap, toothbrushes, clothespins.

Piercing

  • The temporary or permanent placing of objects through the surface of the skin.  The most common piercing areas are the ears, nipples, penis, clitoris, labia.

Player

  • One who engages in leather S/M practices.

Playroom

  • The place or space set aside for S/M leather sexual activities.  Also called the dungeon.

Rubber

  • A fetishtic interest in rubber clothes and objects made of rubber.

Safe, Sane & Consensual

  • The National Leather Association’s credo for standards of S/M Practices; SSC.  A variant is RACK: Risk Assessed Consensual Kink, suggesting S/M isn’t necessarily safe or sane by general social standards.

Safe word

  • A word or signal established during safe, sane & consensual negotiations that when exercised, immediately terminates the activity.  Usually a word not associated with sexual activity such as pineapple or even the safe word is “safeword”

Scene

  • Any leather S/M activity, encounter or interaction that has been agreed upon in advance.  Can also generically refer to the entire leather community.

Session

  • Another name for play scene.

Sir

  • Most Commonly used address by the submissive to a dominant male

Slave

  • The submissive in the scene.  May be a permanent lifestyle or temporary role of minutes, hours or days.

Submissive

  • The partner who relinquishes power to the other partner.  Used more frequently in the heterosexual S/M community

Switch

  • A person that alternates between dominant and submissive roles.

Transvestic fetishism

  • Heterosexual males who cross-dress for sexual arousal and sexual release.  Transvestism may be used as humiliation of male by a female.

Tit torture

  • All nipple play

Top

  • The dominant partner

Toy

  • Any object or equipment that is used during and S/M session, i.e., belts, vibrators, paddles, clamps, brushes, clothespins, whips, canes, etc.

Ultra violet wand

  • An electrical device developed in the 1920’s to stimulate hair growth.  The gas-filled glass wand produces a series of electrical discharges that mix with oxygen in the air and cause violet spark when touched on the body.

Uniforms

  • A fetish for wearing or being attracted to those wearing uniforms, i.e., military, police, nurses, physicians.

Vanilla Sex

  • Sexual encounters that only involve vaginal, oral and anal sex.

VA (Verbal Abuse)

  • The use of harsh, sometimes obscene language to humiliate the partner in the scene

Wrapping

  • An S/M practice whereby some par or the whole body of the submissive is securely bound and tied in a symbolic act of complete submission.